So recently there have been many stories of the games in NUS camps being increasingly sexualised. The thing is, no one actually forced anyone to do anything they do not want to do. Who can the students blame or do they need a lesson on making choices?
Many a times, we blame others for the things we do because we “have no choice”. Truth is, we always have a choice. Just because we do not like the other choices, does not make it disappear. In the case above, no one put a gun to their heads to participate (in which case, they also had a choice to either participate or be shot). It is most often their fear of being alienated or outcast from the group that led them to participate in the games. While the initial intention was to make friends during the camp, they could have just left if they were not comfortable participating in the games. If you are looking to make new friends, join some clubs from the community club (you can seriously meet many like-minded people from clubs like cycling, running, etc.). We need to start taking responsibility for our actions and stop blaming others for our actions.
Just like saving for a rainy day or saving up a war chest for investment purposes, it is not that they cannot save, most often it is because they couldn’t resist going to the restaurant which was so popular a while ago or buying the latest hand phone model that just hit the streets. We make choices that ultimately affects our lives every day and yet we choose to not take any responsibility and blame the economy, job, boss, etc. for not giving us enough salary. So who should really work on their mind-set?
Perhaps we can start giving our students a lesson on making good choices so they won’t repeat the mistakes when they come out to society…
Note: The author is not a NUS student nor do I endorse any games which are uncomfortable to the participants.
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